Title: Open Your Heart for Happy Relationships: 10 Shift Keys – What Your Angels Have Been Trying to Tell You for Centuries
Author: Eve Picquette
Publisher: Enchanted Eve, Inc.
Pages: 78
Genre: Self Help/Inspiration
Format: Paperback
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How
many times have you read or seen something that made you want to change
your life and relationships – but you didn’t know how? Introduced by
two angels, Hope and Impatience,
Open Your Heart for Happy Relationships – What Your Angels Have Been Trying to Tell You for Centuries… answers the “how” question. Eve Picquette shows readers how to:
- Open their hearts to love
- Shift
their lives, using 10 keys—how-to-do-it ideas created with the help of
angels of inspiration—to change in real and satisfying ways.
In
this lighthearted, uplifting, and beautifully illustrated gift book,
each chapter opens with images of the author’s angels and quotes she
believes were angel-inspired sometime in history. Readers may also
download companion MP3 Mini Meditations available on Amazon.com. They
are “Dared to Shift” their thoughts and behaviors and these shifts will
improve lives and relationships: • Shift 1: Always Connect to Love •
Shift 2: Just Stop It, Really • Shift 3: It’s All About You • Shift 4:
It’s Not About You • Shift 5: Give Up on the Past • Shift 6: Expect the
Best Future • Shift 7: Appreciate Everything Now • Shift 8: Re-Choose
Your Relationships • Shift 9: Handle Conflict with Grace • Shift 10:
Love So it Can be Felt.
If you are ready to try these simple
shifts, the results will amaze you. Every encouraging and comforting
word in this beautifully illustrated self-help book will lead you to the
path of peace, happiness, and fulfillment. A treasure to own, it would
also serve as a thoughtful, caring, and loving gift.
First Chapter:
You
probably would like some magic stardust to change your life and your
relationships. You may have been trying to be loving, light hearted and
to live a happy life, but it has been less than a success. Perhaps you
read something and decide to change. But you don’t know exactly how and
quickly fall back into the same patterns, just as I did. This book will
give you practical shifts you can make in your life. I will be showing
you what the angels had been trying to show me for years: how to shift
to love, open my heart, and have happier relationships. If you make
these shifts, you will become more relaxed, have more fun, and draw in
the very best from your relationships. You will have the magic stardust.
There are only two reasons to make these shifts:
- You will feel lighter and happier.
- You will attract people, places and events, which are also lighter and happier.
When
you are feeling lighter and happier and have attracted the same, you
will find that your relationships have evolved, as well. They will be
fixed in amazing ways. The easiest way to explain this is to think about
each of your relationships as a teeter-totter. You are on one end and
your partner, child, boss, or friend is on the other end. When you shift
to lighten your heart, it is like lightening the weight on your end of
the teeter-totter. The person on the other end must change, as well. But
you cannot control what choices the other person will make. Sometimes
the other person may change in ways that are happy and pleasing and keep
things in balance. Sometimes the other person will refuse to play and
will move away from the relationship. If so, it will be OK. Because you
are shifting your life to happiness and love—another partner, friend, or
job will show up to take their place. They will have lighter hearts and
be in balance with the changes you are making to lighten your heart and
enjoy your life.
It would be nice to just ask your angels to
sprinkle some stardust on all the difficult people in your life—swish!
But, unfortunately, all those people have free choice, so you can only
hope to influence them in a positive way. The very best way to influence
the difficult people in your life is to connect to love, yourself.
Whenever you are not feeling light and happy, just stop whatever you are
doing or thinking and connect to love and ask for an open heart. When
you do this, it will be like magic stardust for you—your vibration will
raise, you will feel better, and this transformation will influence
everyone around you in a positive way. The first Shift Key is learning
that there is always magic stardust for you. You can always connect to
love at any time, in any circumstance.
When I was learning this—I
had it all backward. I wanted to get more love from others. But I did
not have my own connection to love. I thought if I could change everyone
else, I would be happy. As it turns out, I could not get anyone to
change even one little bit. I had read many of the self-help books
published in the last twenty-five years and become an authority on why I
was sabotaging myself, and why my childhood or other experiences might
be causing my pain. Everything I learned was helpful, but most of what I
learned just made me want to change other people and circumstances
beyond my control.
I also thought that working on my own education
and accomplishments would make me more lovable and happy. I
consistently chose with my head, then second-guessed my choices. I was
accepted into medical school, and then chose not to attend. Later I
became an attorney, not because I really wanted to be an attorney, but
to make up for my “mistake” in not going to medical school. I was mostly
concerned with how others would view me. My accomplishments were not
from my heart. I am glad for all I accomplished as nothing we learn is
ever wasted. But I was mostly operating out of worry and fear, not love.
I later found that I was making two major errors and even though the results were poor – I didn’t know what else to do.
- First – I was trying my best to be and do what I thought everyone wanted me to be and do.
- When
that didn’t seem to be working out, I often made a second mistake. I
waited and hoped that others would change to be who I wanted them to be.
I
was trying so hard to do it right and be good enough – I wasn’t really
being myself. Then, instead of moving on when a relationship, job or
situation did not meet my needs – I waited and waited – hoping that
others would somehow change (despite strong evidence to the contrary!).
I
wanted to stop wishing and hoping that others would change, so that I
could be happy. I asked my angels to show me an answer: How could I love
and respect myself and have harmonious and happy relationships, at the
same time? This book contains the answers I found. The secret was to
connect to love and then shift in the only areas where I had some
control – my own thoughts, feelings and actions. When my own heart was
right, then everyone and everything around me sorted out with the law of
attraction. When I connected to love and my inner world (my heart) was
right – so was my outer world.
Our angels have been trying to tell
us this down through the ages. However, in the last few years, science
is confirming the importance of connecting to love and its impact on our
world. Joe Dispenza in his book,
Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself, notes
research indicating that we are each part of a vast, invisible field of
energy, which contains all possible realities and actually responds to
our thoughts and our feelings. We can use our minds and emotions to
create our reality. The neuroscientist, Dr. Newberg, in his book,
How God Changes Your Brain, explains
how just thinking of the word God and contemplative practices enhance
the neural functioning of the brain in ways that improve physical and
emotional health, no matter the religion or belief – as long as it is
based on peace, love and compassion. The Institute of HeartMath research
shows that positive thoughts actually add energy to our system and
negative thoughts dissipate our energy. Our heart energy extends out
three feet and more, influencing whatever is around us, as well as
connecting to those we love around the world.
Opening our hearts
and feeling love, appreciation and compassion have a powerful beneficial
effect on how we relate to life. I learned from Dr. David Hawkins’s
book,
Power versus Force, that we all vibrate on an energy scale
that ranges from low vibrations of despair, loneliness, and sadness up
to the higher vibrations of hope, peace, happiness, and joy. Further,
whatever level we are at determines what we attract—like attracts like.
- High vibrations —Happiness, Peace, and Joy
- On the way up —Hope, Expectation, and Contentment
- Low vibrations —Despair, Guilt, and Shame
Our
emotions are based on how we interpret events and what we are thinking
about. Our energy or vibration level is determined by the emotions we
feel. Our vibration then determines what we attract and the outcome of
our interactions with others and our world. So why don’t we all just
move up to joy? Usually because most of us grew up learning unhappy
behaviors from our parents, who also wanted to live happy lives, but
didn’t know how. Unless we connect to love – it is difficult to
break these unhappy patterns.
So
no wonder I was not getting what I wanted! My attitude, emotions, and
vibration were often fearful and worried or critical and negative. When I
was critical and negative, that was the type of experience I was going
to attract. I realized why the Law of Attraction wasn’t working for me. I
began to think of my thoughts as a flock of ducks flying through the
sky. I could say some nice affirmations about what I wanted – that gave
me three or four ducks going in the right direction. However, I had
habitual thoughts and feelings of doubt, fear and unworthiness. Those
twenty ducks were circling or going the wrong way, so chaos reigned. The
universe responded not to my affirmations, but to my primary energy and
vibration of fear and doubt. Law of attraction sounded good, if I could
just stay in peace and joy – and attract that! But I didn’t know how to
shut off the anxious, negative perspective. I found that the easiest
way was to simply ask for help and ask to be filled with the energy of
unconditional love.
I had signed up to go to an Angel Conference
presented by Doreen Virtue, but was hesitant to go. The universe knew I
sincerely wanted help—when I ask I always get assistance. I usually
recognize the angel’s hand only in retrospect. But this time, I actually
heard a voice in my heart say, “Atlanta, Atlanta.” Since the conference
was in Atlanta, that helped me find the courage to go. At that time
Doreen had recorded a beautiful short meditation. I found the best way
to get out of my negative thoughts was by listening to this. All I
needed was a few minutes of quiet time. I felt the peace the first time I
tried it. Later, if I found my thoughts drifting into negativity, I
just paused a moment and asked for help again. I opened my heart to the
energy of love and gratitude. I began connecting to light and love this
way about fifteen years ago, and it has made a profound difference in my
life.
No matter what you are facing, connecting with the source
of love and light in the universe (the power running the universe) will
help. You may wonder how this will improve your relationships, but when
you connect to the power of love, you can see yourself and others with a
love that creates miracles. There is a power that spins the world and
holds the stars and planets in place. That same power is available to
you at all times. You may call it Source, you may call it God; you can
think of it as delivered by angels of unconditional love or the power
that created the galaxies. It truly does not matter. It is light and
love flowing to all of us, no matter what our belief or religion. The
power is love, and it does not discriminate. You do not have to believe
in it; all you have to do is hold out your hands. It keeps you alive,
and you cannot turn it off. You can only temporarily cut off part of the
flow—the part that would make you fully alive, vibrant, happy, and at
peace.
So your first shift key is to quiet your mind and open your
heart. I want to emphasize—I am not recommending some formal meditation
practice; often, just five minutes will move you up the emotional scale
from fear to hope. The secret is not long meditation, but repeated
requests throughout the day and a change in your emotions and vibration.
You will receive help and see your situation with the eyes of love. If
you ask, you will receive that magic stardust.
When you walk in
nature, listen to uplifting music; close your eyes and breathe slowly
and deeply, your heart responds. When you ask for help from Source or
the angels of unconditional love, or when you repeat a comforting
phrase, you are slowing down enough to notice and connect to the light
and power of the universe. If you ask to be filled with the energy of
unconditional love, you will feel your vibration rise, and you will feel
better. If you are fearful or upset, you will become calmer. If you’re
angry or frustrated, you will move up to hope and see answers more
clearly. It will help you with the rest of the Shift Keys. It will raise
your energy and vibration and make it more likely that you will attract
what you want and reach your dreams. But even more important, it will
connect you to love. You will see that everything, no matter how it
appears, is really working out for you—right now.
You may be thinking that if that worked, it would be a miracle. It is.
ANYONE ELSE THINK THIS IS A GOOD IDEA?
You are never alone or helpless. The force that guides the stars guides you too.
—Anandamurti
If you want to find God, hang out in the space between your thoughts.
—Alan Cohen
So
many mornings I have chosen email over meditation…. I override the call
to feel myself—the call to pray, or meditate, or be fully awake. Prayer
comes in all forms and each one spoken brings grace to the
day. —Danielle LaPorte
Love stretches your heart and makes you big inside. —Margaret Walker
You don’t have to go looking for love when it’s where you come from. —Erhard
You are today where your thoughts brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you. —James L. Allen
Everything that exists, … is vibration in motion—and all of it is managed by the powerful
Law of Attraction. —Abraham-Hicks
And my favorite:
If it weren’t for my mind, my meditation would be excellent. —Ani Pema Chodron
DARE TO SHIFT
Shift
and connect to the energy of love and gratitude every single day. Put
five to ten minutes on your calendar today. I cannot urge you more
strongly—try it for a week and prove me wrong! I am not talking about
long meditation – I believe that most of us are here to live our lives,
rather than sit in contemplation. But we need to pause long enough to
stop the negative thoughts and emotions, which are cutting off our
supply of loving energy. We need to ask to be filled, here and now, with
the energy of life, light and the power of love. We need to take the
time to be lifted with the energy of love, to raise our vibration and
open our hearts.
- If you feel you have no time, just take a
few minutes in the car in a parking lot. I have done some of my best
connection in the car, or waiting for an appointment in a place where I
could close my eyes and relax. If I am in a really stressful situation, I
excuse myself for just five minutes (even if I have to retreat to the
restroom). I breathe deeply and ask for calm and clarity or whatever I
need. I ask to be filled with light and to see the situation with love.
This has helped me respond and make decisions in a clear and positive
way.
- Close your eyes, breathe slowly and deeply; ask for help and repeat a soothing phrase. I like the phrase All is well. If you have time, you can use a short meditation or soothing music without words.
- Ignore
any negative thoughts or your to-do list—repeat your request to be
flooded with love and light and continue relaxing, breathing slowly.
- Once
you feel some peace and love, if you want, you can also ask for
specific help. You can ask for clarity on a problem at work; the ability
to see your partner or children with more loving eyes; or the ability
to see your own goals clearly, without worrying about everyone else.
Then let it go, and continue the day.
- Do not ask for predictions
on the future, because both you and others have free choice. You can
choose again at any time, and change your future. The angels do not
predict the future, but angel messengers of unconditional love or the
love and light of the universe can help you recognize what makes you
light and happy and help you move toward the best next step for you. So
ask to clearly know what choice will bring you and others the most love
and happiness now.
- Note – This is asking for help in living your
life. This is not about channeling, predicting the future, or
connecting with anything other than the light of love or Source. The
Source of unconditional love and light only wants you to choose and will
help you follow your choices – Source, angels or the light of
unconditional love never dictates your path, you have free choice. But
connecting to love will lighten any path you choose, increasing your
freedom and joy.
- Only accept loving thoughts that lighten your
heart. If a thought makes you feel heavy or burdened, it is a lie.
Ignore it and expect positive inspiration later. Ask to be raised above
critical vibration. See all negative thoughts fade away with the
stardust of love. Ask to connect to the loving truth of unconditional
love and that loving truth will make you feel light and free.
- Note:
Sometimes you will know that you must do something, like apologize,
that you don’t want to do – but thinking of completing that task will
lighten your heart with relief and you will feel that it is right and
true. Sometimes what is best for you won’t make everyone else happy, but
it will make your heart lighter.
- You will receive help. You may
get an immediate thought or idea when you ask and open your heart to
unconditional love—or, at a later time, you will hear a song or snippet
of conversation, speak with someone, or find a book or magazine article
that seems meant to open your eyes to new possibilities or gives you a
new insight. But remember – if it is the true direction for you – it
will make you feel lighter and happier – not burdened, guilty or
fearful. Your inner knowing is from light and love – learn to trust it.
WHAT WILL I GET OUT OF THIS?
Purpose and Peace
When
I first moved to Arizona, I had a job I enjoyed and was living the life
I thought I wanted, but life still felt like a daily struggle. I
decided to make the drive to work a sort of prayer for help and an
appreciation of my blessings. I repeated soothing phrases, over and
over, asking my angels and the source of unconditional love and light to
lift my energy and give me the grace to enjoy the day and bring good to
all I met. By the time I got to work, I was feeling a sense of purpose
and a light heart, ready to face the day. I had connected with love and
begun to understand that the connection to love, not any external
events, was what made me happy.
Clarity
I wanted to
find an interesting program for my daughter when she was going through
some difficult experiences. I asked for help, and within a few days I
got it. On a flight for a conference, I was seated right next to a woman
who was part of an organization that did wonderful weekend programs for
teenagers. She was able to tell me all about the program. I took my
daughter to this weekend program in Seattle the next week. It was a
life-changing event and helped her to come to terms with some of the
unhappy things in her life, such as the recent death of her
great-grandfather. I knew I had connected to love and had received a
wonderful answer.
Deep Happiness
You are
so
loved, and you will find that when you connect to love, you can feel
happiness and peace, no matter what is happening around you. This will
help you see your relationships with eyes of love and respond to your
partner, family, and friends from a stronger, happier, heart-centered
place. You will begin to expect blessings and miracles. You will see the
difference in how you relate to everyone when first you open your heart
and connect to love.
RECOMMENDED RESOURCES YOU MIGHT ENJOY
Childre, D. (1999)
The HeartMath Solution, NY HarperCollins
Dispenza, J. (2013)
Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself: How to Lose Your Mind and Create a New One, Hay House
Dyer, W. (2012)
I Am: Wishes Fulfilled (CD)
Newberg, A., Waldman, M. (2010 )
How God Changes Your Brain, Breakthrough Findings from a Leading Neuroscientist, NY
, Random House
Schmidt, J. (2003)
Still, Still, Still MP3
Tabell, R. (2012)
The Lord’s Prayer MP3
Picquette, E. (2012) “Connecting to Love,” track on
Mini Meditation—Shift Keys MP3
Virtue, D. (2004)
Chakra Clearing (book
and CD)
For an easy click on book list of all the reference books – go to AdvisorIsIn.com