The Mind Rules Your
Sensual Universe
by Veronica Frances
It is important to understand
that true intimacy often begins in the mind. Yes, two people can feel arousal
in their bodies and jump into bed. That is not the same thing. Real intimacy,
which can include fetishes, various kinks, and the unraveling of certain
defenses, must be mentally explored as much as physically. Otherwise, sex
becomes like a tired stick of gum. It will lose its flavor eventually if two
people cannot mentally connect and take the time to really learn about their
partner and their partner’s needs.
I believe it is important to
take full advantage of a rich fantasy life, if you happen to be lucky enough to
have one. Fantasies are a healthy way for the mind to travel to sensual places.
It is important to include your partner as much as possible in these travels.
Airfare is free. There are no limits to where the mind can go when immersed in
a fantasy.
It is perfectly fine to
fantasize on your own, without sharing your fantasies with anybody. After all,
they are your fantasies. You own them. Nobody can take them away from you. I am
merely suggesting that sharing your deep inner fantasies with your partner will
give them a front row glimpse into your own sensual projection room. Your partner
will have the pleasure of sharing your personal fantasies with you. They will
also have a better idea as to what turns you on and what your sexual triggers
are. Tickling is an amazing and very powerful sexual trigger for some people.
Sexual triggers are often
fetishes, or as I discussed in a previous chapter, phrases that add to a sexual
experience. In certain fantasies about tickling, verbal triggers are often used
and can sometimes be a fabulous precursor to the actual tickling that takes
place.
Here is a scenario that I find
very sexy. This is a very typical fantasy for somebody who loves tickling.
I am sitting in a restaurant
with the guy of my dreams. He keeps staring at me, undressing me with his eyes.
Perhaps he notices I am a bit moody. He reaches under the table and lightly
caresses my knee, knowing that it will tickle slightly and elicit a little
blush and a giggle.
Then he uses the trigger
phrase:
“Does that tickle?”
I begin to feel a warm flush
all over my body. Perhaps the white wine is adding to this sensation, making it
increasingly difficult for me to remain composed. I start to laugh out of pure
embarrassment. My loss of control is making me hotter and hotter between my
thighs. I am afraid the whole restaurant will hear me laughing and that
everybody in the room will know that my partner is tickling me under the table.
My fetish will be exposed and I will be unable to control how turned on I’m
becoming.
My partner leans forward and
speaks to me in a very sexy, sultry tone.
“When we get home, I am going
to tickle the crap out of you. There will be no discussion in the matter. I am
going to strip you down, tie your arms up over your head and tickle you for as
long as I please.”
I can’t wait for him to get
the check, so we can hurry home for my tickle session. He makes me wait,
flirting with me shamelessly for the next hour or so. I suddenly become a bit
terrified of him getting the check. Excitement is permeating throughout my
entire body. My panty crotch is soaked. My face is beet red and my heart is
pounding with delicious anticipation.
He gets the check and
chuckles, as I gasp quietly. He takes me home and then, well you can imagine
the rest.
I just shared one of my
fantasies. What are your fantasies? What fantasies lie deep inside of you and
do you feel sometimes like sharing them with a trusted partner? The fantasy I
just shared is definitely something I would want to share with a partner.
It is important to have a
partner who wants to hear your fantasies and help fulfill them. Your partner
should also learn all your trigger phrases and use them generously, as you
should also do with your partner. I would not settle for anything less and
neither should you. The more you and your partner understand each other’s needs
and desires, the more sexually fulfilling your relationship will be. Most
tickle lovers know that the best tickling often begins in the mind. The mind is
an extremely important vehicle to a happy and fulfilling sex life.
About the Author:
Veronica Frances is the author of the gutsy, no-holds-barred
novel,
Tickling Daphne H. Her new
non-fiction book
Let’s
Talk About Tickling
sheds a refreshing new light on the subject
.
She is known as the TickleWriter in some circles.
Veronica also writes under her real name, Stacey Handler.
Stacey is the author of The Body Burden;
Living In The Shadow Of Barbie. Her book was featured in Jump Magazine,
Australian Women’s Weekly, The National Enquirer, and several other
publications, radio shows and cable TV shows.
Stacey excels at public speaking, singing, composing, and
writing. She is a singer-songwriter, poet, and has written in many different
styles. She has an album and several singles available, including her two
popular anthems, Ain’t No Skinny Little
Thing and Soap Opera Diva.
She lives in New York City,
where she continues to write erotica, fiction, poetry and non-fiction.
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